So, at times, I’m asked “is an engagement session really necessary?” To be honest, the most common hold up to the automatic ‘yes, of course it is’ that I find is… it seems like occasionally the groom isn’t… how shall we say this… going for it. Now don’t get me wrong, I know many a groom that are as gung-ho as the bride or, at the very least, are willing to take one for the team (shout out to my groom who grew a mustache for his bride to complete the styled engagement look!). But occasionally, I have a bride that isn’t quite sure how well the groom is going to take the idea of an engagement session in the Alps and she’d like to have her pitch ready.
Ready, set, catch. See what I did there?? 😉 It’s almost like I understand which sport we’re talking about. First of all, we don’t have to travel to the Alps to photograph your engagement session. As a matter of fact, I’m not even sure why we would go to ‘the Alps’ unless you’re really set on it… 😉 But the point is that we can go, well, anywhere. And there is very good reason why we should. Allow me to explain…
One of the deeply held beliefs around Dragonfly Photography and my own personal heart is that I want this studio to reflect relationship at its core. That sentence seems long and bigger than I meant it to be but in a nut shell, I do what I do because I love people. I adore great relationships with my brides and that all starts LONG before the actual wedding day.
I made a list of my favorite reasons I think an engagement session is not only a good idea, but very necessary in most cases. I can never think of cool acronyms or anything fancy so let’s just number them….
Reason number 1: Opportunity to get to know each other.
This might seem like an obvious statement but I cannot overstate the importance of this one. Just getting to know each other face to face is a HUGE benefit to your wedding day. Although, over the coarse of your engagement, I will spend hours communicating, planning and talking with you as the bride. Traditionally, I will spend a lot less time with the groom. Having the two of you in one place is a really big deal for me. Getting a feel for you guys as a couple is huge. Watching how you interact and as cheesey as it sounds, making memories together. The more foundation we have, the stronger the relationship on your wedding day. That’s a win for everyone.
Reason number 2: Freedom to get comfortable in front of the camera.
Because most people aren’t photographed on a regular basis, (unless they’re a model) there are going to be a few jitters in front of a camera. That is totally normal and totally expected. It takes time to get comfortable with each other and being able to do that on a day no where near your wedding day where you get hours of practice with zero pressure, yes please. Also, I promise if you happen to have a groom that is hesitatent about engagement pictures, once he realizes that we’re going to have fun and laugh together, not stand at weird angles and ‘smile for the camera’ he will be just fine.
Reason number 3: No time limit.
No matter how brilliant your wedding timeline is (and believe me, if you’re a Dragonfly bride, we will all work together to make sure that timeline is brilliant ;-), there is still a strong pace on a wedding day with a lot of unknowns. An engagement session is absolutely stress free in that we can explore, take time, do something really different and there aren’t any other things on the agenda. It’s a fun day, I promise.
Reason number 4: Good coffee.
Here is the thing, we really need to keep everyone happy on an engagement shoot day. Obviously, right? Right. If you spend more than, oh say 5 or 6 minutes with me we will probably stop off for a good cup of coffee. Because, hey, if we’re going to be friends and all… 😉
Reason number 5: The sign in Album.
Swoon, swoon. I wish at this point in your reading you could pick up a sign in album and fully appreciate the beauty that it is to behold. Oh man, this may be my favorite reason. A sign in album is my favorite way to display your engagement images at your wedding. It’s a super gorgeous album that when laid flat would have an image, or a spread of images on one side and the other is blank and ready for guests’ notes and signatures. I LOVE this option because it allows your guests to see the beautiful engagement images that we made, something they wouldn’t ordinarily be seeing. And, it allows you to capture your loved ones well wishes on something that is going to be classic and preserved forever. As ‘cute’ as all those Pinteresty sign in ideas are, where are you going to stack 300 cards, finger print paintings, glass ornaments, etc. In case you couldn’t tell, I adore these albums.
Those are a few of my thoughts on the importance of an engagement session. Feel free to add your own in the comments, I’d love to hear what you think. 😉